My Experience With Paruresis

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ADL81
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My Experience With Paruresis

Post by ADL81 » Wed Jul 11, 2018 9:17 am

Hi All,

I’m a 37 year old guy who has suffered with Paruresis fir as long as I can remember. I guess it goes hand in hand with the Social Anxiety Disorder.

I’ve made some progress with the Paruresis recently, which is great although I have a long way to go. I use urinals most of the time now but only if no one else is using it. However I can not use a urinal in a quiet public toilet if anyone is in a stall either. Toilets with music are fine though.

The biggest problem is work. The toilets at work are very quiet and quite often there is always people in a cubicle, sitting very silently for long periods of time. I cannot even go in a stall in this instance. If the toilets are noisy and busy then I can urinate in the stall. It feels so crazy and complicated, and all this can change depending on my stress and anxiety levels! Before finding out about Paruresis online I felt like I was the only one who was like this.

Anyway, thanks for accepting my join request John and I hope to interact with you all on here!

JohnW
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Re: My Experience With Paruresis

Post by JohnW » Thu Jul 12, 2018 7:46 am

Welcome to our Forum!
You will find great help in regular support work. I also recommend next year's weekend workshop.

JohnW

ADL81
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Re: My Experience With Paruresis

Post by ADL81 » Thu Jul 26, 2018 2:14 pm

JohnW wrote:
Thu Jul 12, 2018 7:46 am
Welcome to our Forum!
You will find great help in regular support work. I also recommend next year's weekend workshop.

JohnW
Thanks John. I’ll keep an eye out next year for the workshop when it is being organised.

Derek
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Re: My Experience With Paruresis

Post by Derek » Sat Sep 01, 2018 9:10 pm

ADL81 wrote:
Wed Jul 11, 2018 9:17 am
Hi All,

I’m a 37 year old guy who has suffered with Paruresis fir as long as I can remember. I guess it goes hand in hand with the Social Anxiety Disorder.

I’ve made some progress with the Paruresis recently, which is great although I have a long way to go. I use urinals most of the time now but only if no one else is using it. However I can not use a urinal in a quiet public toilet if anyone is in a stall either. Toilets with music are fine though. I

The biggest problem is work. The toilets at work are very quiet and quite often there is always people in a cubicle, sitting very silently for long periods of time. I cannot even go in a stall in this instance. If the toilets are noisy and busy then I can urinate in the stall. It feels so crazy and complicated, and all this can change depending on my stress and anxiety levels! Before finding out about Paruresis online I felt like I was the only one who was like this.

Anyway, thanks for accepting my join request John and I hope to interact with you all on here!
I know what you mean about toilets with music in them, that does tend to help quite a lot.
Paruretics are sensitive to both the noise and visual exposure, which is why desensitisation has to look at both aspects, and is a gradual process in both areas.
Good luck with your progress and improvements.

ADL81
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Re: My Experience With Paruresis

Post by ADL81 » Thu Sep 06, 2018 5:34 pm

Derek wrote:
Sat Sep 01, 2018 9:10 pm
ADL81 wrote:
Wed Jul 11, 2018 9:17 am
Hi All,

I’m a 37 year old guy who has suffered with Paruresis fir as long as I can remember. I guess it goes hand in hand with the Social Anxiety Disorder.

I’ve made some progress with the Paruresis recently, which is great although I have a long way to go. I use urinals most of the time now but only if no one else is using it. However I can not use a urinal in a quiet public toilet if anyone is in a stall either. Toilets with music are fine though. I

The biggest problem is work. The toilets at work are very quiet and quite often there is always people in a cubicle, sitting very silently for long periods of time. I cannot even go in a stall in this instance. If the toilets are noisy and busy then I can urinate in the stall. It feels so crazy and complicated, and all this can change depending on my stress and anxiety levels! Before finding out about Paruresis online I felt like I was the only one who was like this.

Anyway, thanks for accepting my join request John and I hope to interact with you all on here!
I know what you mean about toilets with music in them, that does tend to help quite a lot.
Paruretics are sensitive to both the noise and visual exposure, which is why desensitisation has to look at both aspects, and is a gradual process in both areas.
Good luck with your progress and improvements.
Hi Derek, thanks for your reply! My main issue is definitely noise, or lack thereof in public toilets. Although I still can’t use the urinal when another is there but if I’ve already started and someone else comes in I’m fine.

How is your progress?

onlyafool123
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Re: My Experience With Paruresis

Post by onlyafool123 » Mon Oct 01, 2018 10:04 pm

I guess there are ways of relaxing. Either with medication, self talk as in what will happen if i don't go? nothing. Gradual exposure will lessen the anxiety of going. The other part is if a workmate knows youre in the cubicle not urinating what's the worst he could say? what are you doing in there.

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